No one else but you can be your authentic self. It is up to you to give words to your wants, needs and experiences. Only you can know if you’re being authentic or not. That means that you have to chose between being authentic or being liked because wanting to be liked or acting according to what someone else is expecting from you is very often the opposite of what we are truly feeling and wanting. 

I would love to agree with everything and act like nothing bothers me so that love becomes simple and i am liked and loved. But I would be loved and liked for the wrong reasons. Suppressing your authentic nature in order to be liked or to not bother anyone is exactly how traumatised children grew up. They have to choose between being loved and being authentic. That’s the most painful choice there is because we will always choose being loved as children otherwise we couldn’t have survived.

Now, as a grown up. You have to understand that you don’t have to make that choice anymore. You can be authentic ánd loved at the same time. No one else can decide for you what is authentic or not so you can be shamed or blamed for how you act or what you feel but only you truly know if your expression in that moment is authentic and you do not need anyone to validate that. And even if you are not completely authentic and you were not true to what you were feeling when you expressed yourself- it doesn’t matter. It’s about noticing that it happens because who is the one that’s noticing? Right, your authentic self. This is enough to heal al that needs to be healed. 

Hurting people with your words is not being authentic. Authenticity means you are honest about what you feel and experience within yourself. What you want, what you need and what hurts you. Not ever can anyone dispute this or shame this. This is your expression of your inner world. 

Believe me when I say: You can be your true self and express who and what you are and still be loved, just not by the wrong people.